I probably will on the official page for the THRiViNG! Life Maps E-course, but here on my itybites blog, I'm not going to do that. I'm going to tell you my story and how I came to create the THRiViNG! Life Maps E-course.
I've always mostly sort of done what I was supposed to do. I got a job early. I saved my money. I tried not to go into too much debt. The people around me, parents, aunts & uncles, bosses, co-workers and friends, were happy with me. I didn't cause them much grief and I typically didn't ask for much.
The kicker is, I didn't like myself. In fact, I hated myself, yet I convinced myself that as long as they all liked me, I could deal with my self hate. Which meant I had to always look the part and they could never know my truth.
After years of living this way, everything finally caught up to me. I started reading Think And Grow Rich, by Napolean Hill. Then, I tried to read Psycho-Cybernetics, by Maxwell Maltz only to realize I wasn't really ready to be that honest, with myself yet.
After that I found The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz. And I read author after author, including, Wayne Dyer, Guy Finley, Bill Harris, Don Miguel Ruiz, Mark Joyner, Jose Silva and so many others that I don't recall now.
Yet I never took any action. I never made the connection that my happiness depended on me taking actions that fit for me, not my parents, my friends or anyone else.
There were still issues to deal with, many of them still sensitive and raw. It wasn't until I made this connection and began facing my issues that I could begin seeing my happy life, the one for me.
It was also then I realized the extent of the phenomena I'm terming right now "Happiness Codependency".
Happiness Codependency is a belief, backed by actions, creating a false 'proof' that others have control over our happiness. And the need for others to maintain that control, keeps you away from any real and authentic happiness.
So I devised a plan, with the help of Barbara Sher's book "WishCraft" and lots of trial and error to find the things that truly make me happy. How I want to live my life, the values I want to be an example of, the things I want to do, the places I want to go.
I put together THRiViNG! Life Maps: 100 Simple Steps. I've been following them for almost a year. I'm happier now, even in the midst of uncertain circumstances in which I find myself.
I'd like to offer you the same steps for the cost of your personal email address and first name.
I thought about putting them on the blog and the more I thought about it, the less I liked it. I want you to get involved, ask questions, share what you find and too many people are uncomfortable doing that in such a public arena.
Just fill out the form below to get started. End your happiness codependency, it's in the best interest of everyone involved, especially YOU!
Here's how this will work. You sign up up there in that box. For the next 8 days, you'll get a short email from me which asks you to take a 15 minute action. After the 8 days, you'll make your decision. You'll be able to email me with questions or just email what you come up with for each of your days. No one but you and I will see this information.
I don't want to be your voice of reason. I want to be the voice that helps you figure out your map, so you too can begin the journey again to your THRiViNG! Life. Because we all started on this journey when we were small. We learned to walk because we wanted to. We learned to talk because we had so much to say. We learned to do all these things out of curiosity.
We asked 10,000 questions with every breath.
Then we stopped or something stopped us. We got side-tracked and led astray. We started to believe what wasn't real for us. We were trained to hide the spark. Yet it still burns in you. You want to fan the flame and you know some things are going to burn away. You're ready for that. Or you're not quite ready and you want to start anyway.
So let's get started. And I'll see you in your inbox.
Great, great post. In fact, I wish I'd written it. This is my journey as well, almost book for book, author for author! And I think we've come to more or less the same place. I quit a job I hated in a place I loved to come to a place I hate doing what I love, which is working at home. Now this working at home is taking a little longer than I had hoped to make money, but I just have to accept the process and the money will come. And the fact that we came to the same place in August and are now connecting through the MM Group just proves that the Universe does listen and does respond. And I bet that as you and get clearer and more focused, the more abundance will come our way.
ReplyDelete@LaRueWorld - it's very true. Getting clarity, even a little bit, helps you see what's been there all along. And as far as you writing it, you did, maybe not here but for yourself somewhere or you never would have left where you love to do what you love.
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