All That Seems Random Fridays # 16 | Show Up, Be Honest

Wow, it's Friday again which means it's time for All That Seems Random, where we share how aware (or not) we are of the events, people and opportunities the universe has presented to us based on our focus and desires. Because we need to CELEBRATE them.



This has been one really busy week. However, that's good. It's been busy good with only the slightest hint of grrrr. I like weeks like this.

The focus has been on figuring out how to move forward with the ItyBites to 10K Challenge. Yes, I know if you clicked over there, it's an echo-ey cave, bereft of well, pretty much anything. Yes, I wrote one article. Yes, I posted it to Hubpages. Yes, it made me a few cents. Literally. Then of course I didn't repeat any of those actions. Something about cleaning up the writing and up comes ugh and grrr.

I have trouble editing, my stuff. I can edit other peoples work with ease, yet my own, ugh, grrr. Which leads me over to my new Mastermind group. If you aren't familiar with the idea of Mastermind groups, Napolean Hill talks about them in "Think and Grow Rich". He defines the "Master Mind" as a "coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people for the attainment of a definite purpose" (Think and Grow Rich, pg 192).

So the group is going to do a round robin style editing process, because apparently I'm not the only one with an issue of this nature. Go figure.

Another big advantage of a Master Mind group is you are automatically surrounding yourself with people in a spirit of harmony. And who could use more harmony in their life?

That's only the start of it. Accountability, idea generation, brain storming, unbiased feedback, yeah Master Mind groups, I should qualify this, good Master Mind groups, are the glue that pulls all your little pieces together.

This was NOT something I expected to receive from attending the Niche Affiliate Marketing System Workshop. That's why you really ought to join me in January 2010 for the NAMS 3. The price is still reasonable, yet it will increase. Mark my words, David Perdew doesn't play those marketing games. If you wait too long you will pay the $697 price. So click up there and reserve your spot for less than half the full price right now.

Oh boy, lots of random notes this week. So many that I'm not even going to try and share them all.

• "[Fall] in love with the needs, wants, and desires of [your] target market." ~ Sonia Simone ~ (No there is no direct link to the article because it was part of the Teaching Sells pre-launch informational process, which is completely gone once Teaching Sells closes to new members. And yes, they are closed. Still, dig into the archives of Remarkable Communication. You'll find even more gems.)
• "Stillness is what is left when you cease to identify with effort". ~ Robert "Butch" James ~
• "Do or do, there is no die." ~ Rhonda Cort ~
• "The destination is what helps you determine what the journey looks like." ~ Gina Gaudio-Graves ~
  
• "Try to ride a bicycle standing still." ~ Maxwell Maltz ~
• Do you have all the 'whats' to put the system together? (Me asking myself)
  

That's it for me, what random events, people and opportunities are showing up in your life, that aren't really random at all?

All That Seems Random Fridays # 15 | Git 'Er Duuun

Wow it's Friday again which means it's time for All That Seems Random, where we share how aware (or not) we've been of the opportunities the universe has presented to us based on our focus and desires.

This week started off with lots of focus and determination. I began barreling through my action list and noticed a pattern. Not a good pattern either. Following suggestions from speakers at the Niche Affiliate Marketing System Workshop, I chose 3 things from my master TADAH! list, to spend the first part of my day accomplishing.

The action list included:

1. Purchase PLR (private label rights) for an e-book. (I'll talk more about what I'm doing with it on Monday.)
2. Edit the articles I've written to promote the e-book.
3. Upload the e-book to my hosting account.
   

Bright and early Monday morning my list of 3 is waiting on my desk. Beckoning me to begin. And I do. I purchase PLR rights for the e-book. One thing down, two more to do. I open the file with the articles. Wow I wrote 6 articles. I didn't realize that. Okay, so now I've got to edit all six of them. Uh-huh, sigh...

As the sigh fades, my internal critics diatribe, dialogue,, chatter starts - You're not going to get all that done today. You know you're just fooling yourself if you think you're going to get ALL OF THAT done. Then when you don't get ALL OF THAT done you're going to beat yourself up and feel completely useless. Phfft, that's right keep fooling yourself with what you think you can do, that you never get done. It's okay. I"ll be here to keep you company and keep reminding you that you suck at finishing things.

I hear this internal critic start up and realizes she is completely right. I'm am going to beat myself up for not getting it done. I've just set up an unrealistic situation for myself, which confirms that I don't finish and that I don't keep my own word.

My action list of 3 has magically morphed into 7, 9, 12, 14 actions to do today. Action 2 is to edit 6 articles. That's six separate, but same actions. Action 3 is to upload the e-book. It sounds straight forward, only, to properly use PLR material, it has to be rewritten in my voice, with my experiences, then edited for flow, proofread, edited again, properly formatted, then converted to pdf and finally uploaded. Plus, there could be steps I'm missing.


AH-HA.

Sooooooo....

I ask myself a question. What on my new and expanded list is as easy as going to the bathroom? What if I edit one article at a time? Ohh then I'll get 7 items accomplished. Hi fiving myself, celebrating getting more done and maybe not getting everything done. Excited jumping up and down. Do a little dance so my inner child is happy too.

Then I do that for the next 4 days. Yep, Ity Bites people. Ity Bites.

The random notes found on my desk this week, reinforced the learning practiced above:

• "I hope that you will see that no matter where you're at right now in the process of becoming ... YOU CAN DO THIS! Don't ever let anyone, including yourself, tell you otherwise ... Don't condemn yourself to a life of servitude to circumstances and to what others say. How dare they say that about you when you don't know that much about you. Discover who you are. Quality will flow from you because whatever it is you are will shine so brilliantly in your work." ~ John Harricharan ~
  The entire video is below.
  
  


• "...all you need to do is get hip to the simple, easy process of doing what needs to be done to attain what you want." ~ John Carlton ~
  
• Your biggest competitor is you. (From a random salesletter about a Hot Dog Cart Business of all things)
• You must not only want what you want, but you must want what it leads to. French Proverb (thanks go to martinbogo for the share on plurk)
  

That's it for me, what random events have shown up in your life, that aren't really random at all?
--
LaShae

Practical and SMARTER goal setting ala Tim Brownson

You are exactly where you are now.
~Tim Brownson~

So profound. So true. So outrageous. So now.

I am exactly where I am now.

What does it mean though?

No I'm not going to answer the question directly because where in the world is the fun in that. Plus, only you know where you are now. I don't know. I can guess. I'd probably be wrong.

Also Tim mentions how our brain or rather our unconsciousness doesn't want to make us look a fool, when setting and talking about our big fat audacious goal in the present tense, which is the most suggested method for talking about our goal.

The example he uses is, "I'm a healthy weight with a body that Zeus/Apollo would kill for." Stating this goal or whatever your goal statement is, is going to press some kind of button somewhere in your psyche. Which is usually the very reason we don't make these kinds of statements in the first place.

The button is most likely going to be one of two:

No
Yes

If the button pushed is yes and your belief is also yes and the proof used to form your belief is also yes, you just might be on the verge of being a little too egotistical. Not a bad thing exactly, yet too much more yes button pushing for you just might cause your head to implode or more likely for someone to want to make your head implode. But since you have a body that Zeus or Apollo would kill for, you just shoot lightening rods from your eyes and scare them off before they actually tell you what they think about what you think about yourself.

photo by kimberlykv
However, if the answer is no, you probably feel distracted by the chocolate cake I've introduced to your imagery banks with the photo on the left. You might even feel lethargic and overwhelmed when considering the huge freaking chasm between what you really believe, "oh my good that cake looks good, I want cake" and that sentence you keep trying to tell yourself that goes

uh

how again?

Oh yeah,

"I'm a healthy weight with a body that Zeus/Apollo would kill for."

Wow, sarcasm anyone, anyone? No oh well.

And this is the funny thing and also what is known as a sign of mental illness according to some therapists, psychologists, counselors and a sign of damnation according to some clergy - both yes and no buttons being pushed simultaneously.

So how do you move forward or move at all for that matter when your yes button has your ego blown way out of reality and your no button is doing it's best to sabatoge the out of proporotion ego created by the yes button?

No, I really don't know, which is why I keep consulting therapists, psychologists, counselers and clergy. Anybody got any practical ideas?

P.S. I know that no one really comments here, mostly because I never really tell anyone that I've posted anything, so I'm going on the only fair assumption I can go on. No one sees what I talk about or I talk about it so clearly and cleverly that I use up all the words. However, honestly between you and me, or is it, you and I, whatever, if you are reading this, it's the former right?

P.S.S. Since I'm assuming you think it's the former, please leave a comment below because you have a solution or a suggestion about how to move forward while your yes button and no button are being pushed. Or if you know about exactly where you are now and just want to talk about it, you can leave that comment too. Thanks!

P.S.S.S If you don't want to comment, don't assume that you need to, at least though find me on twitter or plurk and say hi. I obviously need friends.